So there is one thing that I constantly struggle with and that’s relaxing. I’m always worrying or thinking about something that I shouldn’t. Usually when this happens it causes me to get worked up or anxious which is just terrible. So I’ve decided to try and few things to help me to relax and not worry so much.
I’m sure that many of you already know that I currently meditate and I enjoy journaling to get my thoughts out. But I’ve been thinking of trying to do more things so that I don’t stress out so much and learn to enjoy my me time and also just life in general.
So I’m someone who loves to schedule or plan ahead in some way so I’m thinking of starting to exercise more. Not anything crazy but at least 10 mins a day a few days a week and then work on it from there. I’m also definitely planning to take some time out to unplug and not be on my phone. That is something that I do constantly. I use my phone for everything so it feels like I never put it down. Also like I’ve mentioned before sometimes it’s the cause of my stress when I start to play the comparison game.
But also with exercising more I plan to start eating healthy, reading more books, and also spending more time on hobbies.
So those are my plans on trying to relax more or de-stress. But now I want to know some of yours? What do you do to relax? I can’t wait to read your suggestions. Hey I may even try some of them out.
I know that everywhere you look there are always people, quotes, and everything in between telling you to stay positive. I also know that staying positive can be very difficult especially when things just aren’t going right. Trust me I definitely know this feelings but I do have some little tricks I use to try and stay positive.
Think of something exciting: It can be anything that’s happening that day, that week, or that month. It can be anything that I truly can’t wait for. Usually this takes my mind off of what is making me sad or upset for at least a little while.
Stay off social media: I notice that sometimes the feelings of negativity I have stem from social media. I start to scroll through pictures on Facebook and Instagram which starts the comparison game. I know that it’s difficult to not be on social media but try using an app that makes you happy such as playing a game or if you can try doing something that doesn’t require your phone like reading a book, writing, or anything else that you love.
Journal: Speaking of writing, one of the things I definitely do everyday is journal. I journal in the mornings before I start my day and I also journal at night. The reason why I journal is to set my intention for the day and also so that I can get any unwanted feelings or thoughts out of my head and on paper. It can definitely be a soothing and wonderful thing. If you like I can use a blog post dedicated to my journaling habits.
Spend time with people: Now when I mean spend time with people I mean spend time with people that inspire you. These people help to lift you up and they also make you feel at ease with who you are. I know for me I definitely have these people that I turn to. Even if you can’t spend time with them in person maybe you can talk to them on the phone or send them a text. Also feel free to let them know how you’re feeling. Usually talking to someone else can also help you put things in perspective and help you love/like yourself again. This can also be helpful if your not one for journaling.
Those are just some of the things I do to try and stay positive and I hope that these things help you. Also one thing I want to make sure I add is that I’m not saying that you should ever brush aside your feelings. I’m just trying to give helpful tips that I use to get you out of that slump. But it’s okay to feel these feelings and your feelings are valid. So if you have a day where you just feel sad it’s okay to feel that.
But let me know what you think of this blog post by commenting down below and also let me know if you have any topics you would like me to discuss!
So I wanted to talk about being your true self because I’m sure that many of us change how we are depending on who we are around. Now I know sometimes we have reasons like if we are in a professional setting or things like that but I mean like holding back positive parts of ourself that we love about ourselves.
Now I know that we a lot of times can’t be our complete selves and a lot of times feel out the room to find out what is considered acceptable behavior. I think that’s okay but I mostly mean like holding back talking about positive hobbies or things like that. Trust me I know that talking about personalities and being yourself can go many different routes.
I can honestly say that I do this mostly because I know that I would be made fun of or looked at differently due to these parts. The parts I’m mostly talking about are the nerdy and talkative parts of myself. I let these parts out when I’m around people who truly allow me to be myself.
But there are certain people that I hold these parts back with. This is mostly because I’ve let these parts out before and I was either made fun of (friends) or told later that those parts made me seem childish (certain family).
Well I’m here to say that I’m learning overtime that I don’t care about what people say about these parts of myself. I truly love who I am and the personality that I have. If someone has an issue with that then that’s on them not on me.
Now I will say that there are moments where I still don’t feel comfortable with it depending on who the people are because it’s still a work in progress. But overall I’m realizing that the Lord made me this way for a reason and gave me this personality for a reason. So I should enjoy sharing it.
But have any of you ever felt this way? If so then what made you accept that part of yourself or what made you change? Plus do you have any advice for others? Comment down below!
So yesterday I got a chance to check out Beyoncé’s Homecoming special on Netflix and all I have to say is that it is amazing. The Netflix special pretty much gives you a behind the scenes look of Beyoncé’s performance at Cochella. It also goes a little more in depth to her pregnancy and birth of the twin Rumi and Sir.
You see how she picks the band, her dancers, her steppers and the reason why she decided to make the artistic decisions that she did. One of the things she says is that she wanted to bring our culture the black culture to Cochella for all to experience. She also chose the people that she chose so that all the people that felt that they didn’t fit in or were different were represented on stage.
It was definitely an amazing thing to see and it made me very proud to be not only black but also a black women. It made me feel powerful and proud to be who I am.
I definitely recommend other people to check it out if you can because it was definitely eye opening and also inspiring. I can also say that I think it will be inspiring to those that may not love her music because she has a way of touching everyone in some way.
So watch it on Netflix and check out her new album that also released on the same day under the same title as the Netflix special. Plus comment down below on what you thought of the special of you watched it or if you will watch it?
So a lot of times on YouTube I will watch videos where people discuss their nighttime routines or self-care routines and a lot of times they mention technology downtime.
Technology downtime is pretty much having some time before bed where you don’t engage with technology such as your phone, game system, tv, etc. Usually people use this time to read a book or journal so that going to bed is a relatively easy process or just so that they can think about things.
I honestly have yet to practice this. I am literally addicted to my phone. I mean I’m typing this up on my phone while sitting at my desk for work. I’m on it constantly so when I think of not engaging with it I start to sometimes get anxiety I guess. I started to realize that I use my phone for everything such as playing games and sometimes for even self-care but I know that it’s not healthy and social media plays havoc on my mental health.
So my question is if you currently practice downtime with technology what helps you? What do you do during that time and how long do you do it a day? 1 hour? 30 mins? Several times a day? Comment down below and let me know since I’m pretty interested in trying to do this.
I know that the big thing that everyone likes to talk about and make are vision boards. I’ve never created an actual vision board but I did decide to create a digital one using Pinterest.
I decided to try creating one after doing some research via YouTube and hearing from other youtubers that they created one and I decided to try it out. Now most youtubers I saw made an physical vision board involving a poster board, magazines, etc. I decided to try and do one digitally because well I didn’t have any magazines or other materials that they mentioned.
But I guess my main question is have any of y’all made a vision board? What was your experience and will you do it again? I think one thing that I need to get better about is looking at my digital vision board more often. So comment down below and let me know.
I decided to make a blog post on positive self talk because I feel like it’s something so many of us don’t do very often. I can honestly say that I don’t do this as often as I should. Whenever I start to feel sad, depressed, or anxious I start to think and say things to myself that aren’t true. For example I may say that I deserve to be alone, that I’m not pretty, that I’m not successful, I don’t have any friends etc.
Usually once I’m out of this mood I don’t think these things anymore but I wonder if there is a way to reverse this thinking before it starts. I feel like so many of us don’t stop this talk until we feel better about ourselves.
I know that one thing I did for a while was writing the things I liked about myself on a piece of a paper and taping it to the back of my door. Then I also wrote in marker on a mirror I had a list of things I was with positive words and then a things I was not with words that were negative such as greedy, unemotional, and jealous.
These things were definitely helpful for a time but now I look for other options. So what I usually do now is read affirmations via Pinterest or I journal. But I’m always looking for more.
So what do you do for yourself that promotes more positive self talk and how do you combat negative self talks? Comment down below and let me know.
For this weeks video on Self care I decided to talk about morning routines. Mostly I’m discussing why I have a morning routine and also what my morning routine consists of. So comment down below on if you have a morning routine and what your favorite part is. Plus feel free to comment down below any ideas that you have for future videos.
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Happy Monday everyone! I know I usually do a video on Mondays but I was able to record so I’m doing a blog post instead. As many of you know I’m continuing on this self-confidence journey and this time I’m adding on Facebook when it comes to limiting social media.
In some ways I honestly think that Facebook may be harder than Instagram and this is because not only do you scroll but people post articles that get you sucked in. Well I know I get sucked in and end up spending more time on there then I wanted to.
As for my Instagram limit I’ve actually been doing pretty well although one day I did go over the limit by a lot. But this was mostly due to the fact that I had an issue to take care of on there. But on a good note I went down like 15% when it came to my total usage so I’m very happy about that. But overall I’m excited about the progress that I’ve made.
So let’s see what happens this week and I know that I’ll be able to succeed. Also feel free to comment down below on your ideas or thoughts on what I’m doing.
So I’m continuing my journey to strengthen my self-confidence and this has led me to a new project. As I’m sure many of you know journaling is something that many people suggest to help with anxiousness and to get your feelings out.
I’ve always enjoyed journaling and I decided to try a new journaling exercise that I hope with help some of you. This journal exercise will need you to be very real and true about your feelings.
Pretty much what your going to do is write down the name is a person or people that you’re jealous of, insecure around, or just don’t like. Then write down the reasons why. After writing down the reason come to a conclusion about why you dislike this person or are jealous. Then take it a step further and write down what your fears are regarding this person and what you hope changes.
So far I’ve only done this for one person and it really helped to put my feelings into perspective. Do I all of a sudden feel better about this person, no but it does help to me to see why I feel this way. It also showed me that my issue is not with the person but more so about my feelings about them.
It’s a journaling exercise that I hope to continue and I hope that some of you use this too!